"Mediation" is a term used when the parties to a dispute agree to choose a neutral third-party to assist them in working out a resolution to their problem. The mediator facilitates the discussion between the parties using various techniques to help the parties reach their own conclusion as to how best to settle their dispute. The agreed upon terms are ultimately set down in a format for the parties to sign, which is generally known as a "Memorandum of Understanding" or "MOU". A "mediator" is not an "arbitrator" or a "judge" and will not make a decision for the parties.

Mediation can be the most useful tool to resolve a dispute. Mediation, however, takes two parties who are able to communicate and who have the shared goal of resolving their dispute without someone else (the judge) making decisions for them. Mediation is usually done in a meeting place of the parties choosing, rather than in a courtroom. Mediation is "confidential" and things may be discussed that you would never want revealed in open court. Paying for your share of the mediator's time is usually cheaper than the combined costs of each party retaining the services of their own lawyer. Mediation moves at the pace dictated by the participants as opposed to the time constraints placed upon you by the Court. Mediation allows for "creative" solutions.

Glenn P. Milgraum has earned and been awarded the designation of "APM" ("Accredited Professional Mediator" by the New Jersey Association of Professional Mediators ("NJAPM") See: Mediator Requirements and Application for Civil/Business (njapm.org). He is a trained "Divorce Mediator", as well as a "Civil Mediator" having been educated, trained and qualified in both New York and New Jersey. He appears on the New Jersey and New York Court Rosters (a list of approved Civil and Divorce Mediators). He has also been trained to handle matters that contain aspects of Domestic Violence. Mr. Milgraum, although not admitted to the Florida Bar, has been Certified by the Supreme Court of Florida as a Civil Circuit Mediator and Family Mediator for all Circuits within the State of Florida. Mr. Milgraum's varied background as a civil litigator for 35 years; his background as an educator for over 25 years; his participation as a board member on several boards; and his experience as a small claims arbitrator makes him uniquely experienced to handle your matter for mediation. To get a better picture of Mr. Milgraum's abilities please visit our Client Comments page.

The "APM" designation is earned and awarded by the New Jersey Association of Professional Mediators ("NJAPM") to mediators that have proven to their peers that they have met, and continue to meet, stringent requirements that show them to be amongst the elite professionals handling mediation matters in New Jersey. [See: Mediator Requirements and Application for Divorce/Family (njapm.org), Mediator Requirements and Application for Civil/Business (njapm.org)]

Simply put, the answer is an astounding YES. "Divorce Mediation" is helpful in all stages of the divorce process. Whether you are simply considering trying a "separation period" or seeking a definitive "Divorce", mediation will prepare you and your spouse for your future in separate households. If there are children involved one of the priorities will be to work out a custody/visitation routine that all of the parties can agree upon as being in the best interest of the children. Simultaneously, the mediator will assist the parties in working on individual budgets to assist in determining the amount of spousal support and child support that should apply and any deviations from the statutory guidelines that a court would need to follow. The mediator will also assist in determining how to divide up the parties assets which may include tangible and intangible property, savings and retirement benefits, if any. Going to mediation, will not deny you the use of an advocate of your choosing. Mediation is usually concluded with the drafting of a "Memorandum of Understanding" ("MOU") which will then go to each party's attorney for review, fine tuning, and the processing of the divorce. Keep in mind, most courts today are pushing the parties to try mediation before they hold a trial and render a decision. Why waste the extra expense of litigation if mediation can assist you in resolving your marital issues, or at the very least eliminate those aspects which the parties are in agreement.

Yes. However strict rules must be followed to secure the "confidentiality" of the mediation. There are good and bad aspects to conducting mediation "on-line" and "in person". Neither one is "better" than the other, they are just different and different people may favor one method over another. In person mediation tends to give the mediator better control over the flow of the mediation. It also permits umrestricted view of the individual's body language and other nuanced behaviors. According to some, "remote mediation" tends to make document exchange difficult as the "original" documents aren't being produced and finding appropriate words or phrases in electronic copies on-line can be time consuming and frustrating. While others find it easier to view documents together on-line, as everyone then is focused on the same thing at the same time. You choose. Glenn P. Milgraum is capable of conducting mediation either way according to the parties' needs.

The process is CONFIDENTIAL and cannot be utilized in court. The mediator does not represent any of the parties. It is not the role of the mediator to give legal advice. However, the mediator, from time-to-time might explain the law as it pertains to your matter, or bring in other professionals (i.e: financial or psychological) to assist. Mediation is performed in scheduled sessions to assist the parties in obtaining what they believe to be a "win-win" resolution for all. The parties, by agreement, may be accompanied by other individuals, including attorneys, if they so choose.

If you are unsure as to whether you wish to hire Mr. Milgraum as your mediator or as your litigagtion advocate, please let him know up-front at the initial point of contact. This is simply due to the fact that if you want Mr. Milgraum as your mediator he must remain neutral and cannot hear one side's "story" without giving the same opportunity to the other side. Retaining Mr. Milgraum's services as your mediator will require the other participant's agreement to utilize his services as the third-party neutral. If no such agreement can be reached, you can then utilize his services as your attorney to advocate on your behalf. However, once mediation has begun, with Mr. Milgraum as your mediator, you will no longer be able to retain his services as your advocate in the same matter.

Mediation can take as long as is needed to reach an amicable conclusion between the parties. However, if a matter is currently before the court, a time constraint may be placed upon the parties by a judge even in light of the fact that most judges will permit some time extensions if the parties are truly negotiating in good faith. Depending on the type of case, mediation sessions may be split into different blocks of time as negotiations sometimes depend on obtaining documents or information that is not readily available to the participants; a particular event needs to occur; emotions are causing a participant to be overwhelmed; the parties are working under time constraints; or a myriad of other possible interrupting events.

Generally speaking, mediation services are "pay as you go" and are billed hourly, broken down to either 6 minute intervals (1/10th of an hour), or 15 minute intervals (1/4 of an hour), depending on the retainer agreement agreed upon. The parties will be invoiced proportionately, pursuant to an agreed upon ratio. Payment is expected at each session.

Of course you should have a lawyer to protect your interests. While it is always a good idea to educate yourself, each case is case-by-case sensitive. Your attorney should be able to pinpoint the issues of your fact-specific situation and apply it to your case. Glenn Milgraum P.C. has over 35 years of experience of assisting clients navigate through legal minefields. Avoiding the use of an attorney may ultimately cost you more money and time then you expect.

Glenn P. Milgraum, Esq., APM is a trial attorney with 35 years of experience. He is experienced in all of the subject matters found on this website. He is an experienced mediator that has earned and been awarded the designation of "APM" ("Accredited Professional Mediator") awarded by the New Jersey Association of Professional Mediators ("NJAPM") [See: Mediator Requirements and Application for Divorce/Family (njapm.org), Mediator Requirements and Application for Civil/Business (njapm.org)]. Glenn Milgraum, Esq., APM appears on the court rosters for New Jersey and New York as a "Civil Mediator" and as a "Divorce Mediator". He has also been qualified to handle matters that have aspects of "domestic violence". In addition, Glenn P. Milgraum, Esq. has not only practiced as a "civil litigator" he has committed substantial time practicing various aspects of "real estate" law for 35 years; he has over 25 years of experience teaching all aspects of "real estate" transactions and related licensing laws. To truly understand Glenn P. Milgraum's value to you as a client please review the "Client Comments" section in the "About Us" heading above.

Many times the initial telephone conversation will be your initial consultation. It is the point of contact where the firm and you will determine if we are a good match for each other. It will be a cursory conversation where basic information is exchanged to determine the timeline as to when certain aspects of your matter need to be performed. (For example: If you were served with a Summons and a response needs to be made within a prescribed number of days; OR you entered into a sales contract to buy/sell a home in New Jersey and your 3 day right of refusal may have begun to run). This is then followed by a meeting with Glenn Milgraum, Esq., either virtually or in person.

Appointments can be made by making direct contact with the firm. This is best accomplished by calling the firm directly at 973-812-8660. (If you are calling for "mediation services" in New York State you can also call 718-748-6625). You can also e-mail Glenn P. Milgraum, Esq at Disputelaw@aol.com OR fill-out the "contact" page of this website. If for any reason you are unable to reach us directly, please leave a telephone message with your name, telephone number and the best times to reach out to you.

YES, for most matters. The firm's chosen platform is "Zoom Pro" a system that is easily utilized even for those with rudimentary computer abilities. Zoom is the selected system being utilized by the courts throughout the State of New Jersey. "Zoom" permits "meetings" to be conducted with use of a computer and/or "smart" phone. It handles video, similar to "face-time" and even operates with just voice communication. It should be noted, however, that certain matters require physical presence (i.e.: witnessing of a Will) and that other matters may rise to a required level of "privacy" that may not be readily available on a "remote" platform. Court appearances may require the personal attendance of the attorney and/or client.

YES. Zoom Pro has instituted rigorous measures to prevent "Zoom Bombing". With the current version of Zoom, files are now encrypted. The Zoom meetings are not vulnerable to intrusion, so long we as "Host" follow certain guidelines (which we always do). 1. We establish a "new" ID number for each session; 2. Each session gets its own password; 3. No participants can enter the meeting without the Host being present first; 3. All participants are placed into a "waiting room" and admission needs to be granted by the host; 4. The Host has the ability to "kick" someone out of the seesion; 5. The Host has the ability to "lock" the meeting so that there are no new participants entering the session; 6. The Host controls the audio/video function for all participants and can turn it "off" at any time; 7. The Host has the ability to use "break-out" rooms to give "privacy" to the individuals in the "break-out" room; 8. The Host can allow/disallow document sharing amongst the parties. and 9. The Host can end the meeting at any time.

Generally speaking, the initial consultation should not be an unproductive time consuming event. The client should bring to the initial consultation any "notices", "litigation documents", "correspondence" (in writing or electronic), applicable "financial records", "notes" or any other source materials that the client believes will be helpful at that first meeting. (If the initial consultation is conducted remotely, having these documents available in an "uploadable" format would be of great help.) In addition, the client should bring a photo ID and be prepared to pay the the agreed upon consultation and/or retainer fee.

It depends. Just because you found "court-forms" on-line, doesn't mean that you have the confidence or knowledge on how to complete those forms. Court clerks, who may also be a source of forms, are forbidden to give "legal advice". While you believe you might be saving time and/or money by going the "do-it-yourself" route; you may be surprised when your paperwork is "rejected", definitely adding more stress to your already complicated situation. If you did mange to get some papers through, you may have already forfeited rights or interests which you should have preserved. Glenn Milgraum P.C. is committed to make the legal process as inexpensive as we can for our clients. This is often done by knowing the process, the applicable laws, and setting up a "game-plan" with the client at the outset of a matter. Said game-plan may include, but not be limited to, assisting clients with "filling-in" forms.

A "retainer agreement" is simply a contract between you and the firm that spells out your rights as a client and what you can expect from the firm. The "retainer agreement" also sets forth what services will be rendered by the firm and what rate you will be charged; as well as how and when you will be charged for the services performed. Before signing the "retainer agreement" you are expected to read it in its entirety, ask the attorney to explain any part of it you do not understand and negotiate any terms that you believe should be changed prior to you executing the document. For your protection, as well as ours, this firm will not perform any work without first obtaining a signed "retainer agreement" along with the agreed upon "retainer fee".

Glenn P. Milgraum, Esq., APM is an attorney who has been handling all varieties of divorce and family matters since the mid-80's, as well as other civil issues that relate to marital assets and interests. He has "trial" experience in Family and Civil Courts and is not intimidated by opposition counsel. Glenn P. Milgraum, Esq., APM is a trained and rostered divorce and family mediator and has earned and been awarded an APM designation from the New Jersey Association of Professional Mediators (See: Mediator Requirements and Application for Divorce/Family (njapm.org), Mediator Requirements and Application for Civil/Business (njapm.org). Glenn P. Milgraum, Esq., APM has appeared on several continuing education panels as a panelist and continues to keep himself educated on the applicable laws on an on-going basis.

"Litigation" is the term used to describe the process when parties wish to get the courts involved in a dispute. Litigation is usually commenced by the service of a "Summons with Notice" or "Summons and Complaint" upon a party indicationg what wrongs need to be addressed and the demand for compensation for the damages suffered. Always keep in mind, "different states, different rules" and that all courts do not follow the same rules even within the same jurisdiction.

Litigation works best when there is a complete break-down in communication. Litigation is conducted in the "public's eye" and as such one should not expect any "confidentiality" to apply. Litigation tends to work best when one party absolutely believes that they are in the right and the other party is not; and they are willing to move forward just to prove this point. Litigation allows you to hire a strong mouth-piece to advocate on your behalf. Litigation is framed in the "law" and is built upon interpretations of statutes and prior court rulings. In Family and "Domestic Relations" matters, litigation may be necessitated by the existence of a "Restraining Order" or even the mere existence of allegations of "domestic abuse".

No. You can handle your own matter "Pro Se". If you don't know what the term "Pro Se" means, that is one indicator that you should hire a divorce lawyer. Divorce lawyers are your mouth-piece and the instrument you utilize to effectuate the best results in your divorce case. If your spouse has an attorney who is seeking to utilize the nuances of the laws in your spouses best interest, don't you think it is in your best interest to also have an attorney so that you are both on equal footing?

Too bad. Under the current laws (applicable in NY, NJ and most states), so long as one party wants out of the marriage the Court will not put any barriers in the way to prevent that from happening?

Spousal support, if applicable, will be paid to the non-monied spouse and one's obligation to pay is usually determined by the length of the marriage and/or changed circumstances. In most situations, the non-monied spouse is the spouse that is the lower earner.

If you have childeren and you are deemed to be the "non-custodial" parent or the parent with "right of visitation", you will most likely be obligated to pay some form of child-support. Child-support is usually calculated (In NJ and NY) pursuant to statutory guidelines; however, the parties can agree to deviate from the guideline amounts.

Sorry to say it, but the general answer is NO. "Child support" is meant to provide for housing, food, and clothing for the children, as well as other necessities. Sometimes, the guideline amount may seem excessive as the "needs" do not reach the amount designated. If there appears to be an inequity, a "deviation" from the guidelines may be requested, but is rarely granted without consent of the other spouse.

Yes. Regardless of whether you are receiving or paying "Child support" you may be entitled to receive "spousal support".

Hire an attorney, sooner rather than later. An experienced attorney, such as Glenn P. Milgraum, Esq., has the knowledge of the current laws as it applies to your situation. Glenn P. Milgraum, Esq. will assist you in preparing for the future so you will be ready in the event that your spouse seeks to deminish your rights. You should always have an attorney ready to protect your interests when it is needed, and Glenn P. Milgraum, Esq. prides himself on his ability to move quickly to act in your interest and in the best interest of your child(ren).

This is a question that should not be taken lightly. Nobody should remain in a situation that is uncomfortable or dangerous. However, vacating the marital premises prior to 'Divorce" can be detrimental. Vacating the home means the creation of a second home that needs to be carried with limited marital funds. This can become especially burdensome to the non-custodial parent or parent with "visitation" rights. Which party remains in the marital home may also become a factor to be considered by the court when determining custody/visitation.

In an ideal world, you would have stopped utilizing social-media long before you considered getting divorced, especially when children are involved. But, as we all know this is not a realistic approach to modern life. Just keep in mind, ANYTHING PLACED IN WRITING MAY BE USED AS EVIDENCE AGAINST YOU. You are placing something in writing whether you utilize a piece of paper and pencil; or some form of technology from computer generated e-mails to text messages on a cell phone. Also keep in mind, "photos say a 1,000 words" and are always subject to misinterpretation. When combining the photos with words of others, or yourself, you are making a statement that can be used against you. Even the "time-stamp" of an entry can hurt you. Protect your relationship with your children, stay away from posting on social-media.

Determining who gets the family pet is always a difficult question for the Court to answer. Most courts have kept to the old precept that animals are simple possessions, like a painting or piece of furniture. New Jersey has a fluid set of guidelines set down through fairly recent case law that suggests that the Court look at several factors: 1. Who is the first, or documented owner, of the pet?; 2. Who has custody of the children? (believing it is in the best interest of the child not to be separated from the family pet.); 3. Who spends the most time with the pet?; 4. who takes the responsibility of caring for the pet's daily needs?; and 5. Who has paid for the pet's health needs in the past? It would not be unheard of for the court to reach a decision where one of the parties is designated as the "custodial possessor" of the pet for a designated period of time (likened to exclusive use of a vacation home). However, do not expect the court to issue an order granted "joint custody" or phrase its decision in what is in the "best interest" for the pet. However, the courts in New York are now guided by what is in the pet's best interest.

In New Jersey an "Early Settlement Panel" (ESP) is a dispute resolution process implemented by the Court to assist in resolving marital issues prior to conducting a trial. The ESP is usually comprised of 2-3 experienced matrimonial attorneys. The focus of the ESP is usually limited to financial and property issues. The panelists will review statements and documents provided by each side before meeting with the parties and their counsel. At the meeting the panelists will address the parties directly and will also pose questions to their counsel. The panalists will provide the parties with what they believe will be the ultimate outcome if the matter goes to trial. If a mutual agreement can be reached the matter usually goes directly to the judge to issue a judgement of divorce based upon the mutually agreed upon terms which will be placed on the record. If no agreement, or a partial agreement, can be reached with the panalists assistance the judge will be informed that the parties partook in the ESP but were unable to reach a mutual agreement. The matter will usually receive a "trial date" and then be referred to mediation to see if a mutual agreement can be worked out. If no mutual agreement is reached the matter will go to trial.

The parties to a lawsuit have very specific titles which follow them throughout the litigation. The "PLAINTIFF" is the person(s) commencing the lawsuit (sometimes known as the "Petitioner"); The "DEFENDANT" is the person(s) who must answer for the alleged wrongdoing and is the one being sued (sometimes known as the "Respondent"). The initial document explaining the wrongdoing for which compensation and/or damages is sought is known as the "COMPLAINT". If the Defendant in turn wishes to complain about the Plaintiff s/he brings an action known as a "COUNTERCLAIM". If there is more than one Plaintiff the term used to describe an individual Plaintiff is "Co-Plaintiff". If there is more than one defendant the term used to describe an individual Defendant is Co-Defendant". If a Co-Defendant wants to sue another named Co-Defendant s/he commences what is known as a "CROSS-CLAIM". If a Defendant wishes to bring into the action a party who is not being sued by the Plaintiff or a Co-Defendant s/he commences what is know as a "THIRD-PARTY COMPLAINT" and the party being sued therein is then known as a "THIRD-PARTY DEFENDANT" and the complaining party is then known as the "DEFENDANT-THIRD-PARTY PLAINTIFF".

A "motion" is simply a request to the court asking for its intervention in a matter. This is usually done during the pendency of a lawsuit, but can also be done after a final judgment has been obtained.

"Discovery" is the process utilized by the parties to obtain information that might be in the possession of the other side to a lawsuit. "Discovery" may be obtained through various methods which includes, but is not limited to, "Bill of Particulars", "Interrogatories", "Depositions", and "Notice to Produce". Depending on your case, this firm may utilize some or all of the methods listed and may even choose to utilize other information gathering techniques.

Glenn P. Milgraum, Esq. is licensed in the states of New York and New Jersey and has been involved in residential and commercial real estate sales transactions since the mid 80's. Glenn P. Milgraum, Esq. has been dealing with various real estate issues as a litigation attorney for over 30 years. He has taught all aspects of real estate licensing law for 25 years and is well versed in all the pitfalls and nuances of real estate transactions. He is versed in understanding mortgages, as well as the various expectations placed upon HOA, condominium and co-op ownwership.

Prior to even contacting a real estate agent, you should contact an attorney. Prior to contacting your mortgage broker, you should contact an attorney. While each party plays a role in the sale/purchase of a home your attorney is the lynch pin to making the transaction go smoothley. If you are selling your home, the real estate agency will ask you to execute a "listing agreement". A "listing agreement" is a binding legal contract between you and the broker and as such should be reviewed by your legal counsel, as terms can be negotiated that may be more favorable to you. If you are purchasing a home and you are planning on applying for a mortgage, your legal counsel will be able to assist you in preparing your application as to avoid any issues that might arise that can be considered "fraudulant", even though innocently made. Your attorney will likewise assist you with dealing with other necessary parties, such as surveyors, home inspectors, contractors, title companies, and other individuals that might be needed to complete the sales transaction. Glenn P. Milgraum, Esq. is well versed in dealing with all of the individual players and their special needs as it pertains to your sale/purchase and will be there each step of the way to assist you in walking through the process.

A "listing ageement" is a contract between you and your real estate agent. The "listing agreement" defines what obligations the agency has to you and what obligations you have to them. The "listing agreement" will include terms as to length of time you will be beholden to each other and what the compensation for service will be. There is nothing "standard" about the agreement and as such all agreements are negotiable. You should not sign a "listing agreement" without first having your attorney review said agreement.

In New Jersey - YES. In New York - NO. In New Jersey an automatic 3-Day right of refusal is given to any purchaser and seller entering into a "residential real estate sales contract". In New Jersey, it is customary (not required) that the real estate salesperson drafts a preliminary contract between the seller and the buyer. However, the agreement entered into is typically a pre-approved pre-printed form where the agent is able to fill-in very limited provisions under the law. Both the seller and the purchaser have 3 business days to "cancel" or "suspend" the "Ccontract of Sale" as drafted. It is very typical that the purchaser's attorney refutes the contract unless additional terms and modifications are accepted. In other words, know who you will be using as your attorney at the time of entering into the "Contract of Sale" as 3 days does not give you much time to start shopping around for one. In New York there is no automatic right of refusal. Once you sign a "Contract of Sale" you are beholden to it. You should not sign any contracts until your attaorney has had a chance to review and modify any of the terms contained therein. When you agree to purchase a property all you should be supplying to the real estate agent is the name and contact information of your attorney.

When purchasing a property, the agent assisting you may not be beholden to you. That agent may be termed a "purchasers' agent" or "buyers' agent" but still owes loyalty to the seller. A true "buyers' broker" owes loyalty to the buyer and not the seller. A "buyer's broker's" fee may be separate and apart from the commission that real estate agents receive (usually from the seller). A "buyers' broker" is obligated to not only assist the purchaser in obtaining the property from the seller's agent but is tasked with other assignments to educate the purchaser such as doing "deep dive" research of the property, the community, environmental impact review, "Megan's Law" research, etc.

There are good aspects and bad aspects to buying either a cooperative unit (co-op) or a condominium unit (condo). While co-ops and condos might look alike they are different. When purchasing a co-op unit, you are purchasing shares in a corporation that are tied to the specific unit you are purchasing. As a shareholder you are given certain voting rights pursuant to the shares you own. The Co-op Board of Directors is voted into office, usually on a rotating basis to represent the interests of all the shareholders. The Co-op Board of Directors sets the rules that all unit owners must follow and utilizes the "maintenance charges" to maintain the cooperative entity as a whole pursuant to a "budget" that has been set forth. When purchasing a co-op your attorney should be given an opportunity to review the "financials", the "prospectus", "house rules" and cooperative "minutes". When purchasing a condominium unit, you own that space and are given a "deed" like any other property owner. The condominium, like the cooperative entity, may have "common areas" which must be maintained, and may have agreed upon "restrictions" that might apply to the unit owner. The condominium also has a budget managed by a Board of Directors elected into office. The condo owner pays "common charges" to be utilized to meet these obligations. When purchasing a condo your attorney should be given an opportunity to review the "financials", the "prospectus", "house rules" and condominium "minutes".

A "closing" occurs when all of the necessary moving parts of a real estate transaction comes together. All of the home inspections have been concluded to everyone's satisfaction. The purchaser has obtained a final commitment from their lender. The title company has investigated the history of the property and is satisfied that the seller truly owns the property; has a right to transfer it; and is also satisfied that there are no outstanding financial obligations which would prevent the transfer of the property. Only then, do all the parties attend the "closing". At the table there are typically two "closings" taking place simultaneously: The transfer of the property and the obligations pertaining to the mortgage. At a typical closing you may find the Seller(s), the Seller's attorney, the Purchaser(s), the "Purchaser's attorney", the "Lender's attorney", the "Listing agent", the "Selling agent", and the "Title Closer". When purchasing a co-op or condo, you might also find the "management agent" present.